You know, I was watching a Grey's Anatomy episode a couple of days ago and this one patient on the show is engaged, is a virgin, and is waiting to have sex until she gets married. Of course, the doctors are all making fun of it outside of the room when it gets out that one of the residents is a virgin. Of course, they proceed to make fun of her as well. All fun aside in watching Grey's Anatomy, how wrong is that? I was very disconcerted. This message is on national TV. This message is going out to every single person that watches Grey’s Anatomy. I mean, I know the times I'm growing up in are different than even my parents' time, but the thought that an attitude towards virginity such as this, on a show as popular as Grey's Anatomy, is airing for the world to see disheartens me.
I'm upset about the message it sends to young girls out there. And I'm not talking about "young people". I'm only 20 and I consider myself quite young, thank you. Girls in college, girls graduating high school, and girls just leaning to be themselves are influenced by this mindset. Guys, you are also influenced by this mindset. The message being sent to everyone watching that episode is "Wow, you're actually a virgin?! Haha, that's ridiculous, you should feel uncomfortable with that." This is a touchy subject for some girls and for some it's not even a subject of consequence. Nevertheless, a message like that should not be so lightly addressed. I have had this belief for the duration of my existence so far: there is nothing wrong with keeping your virginity until marriage. Even if you've been dating someone for a very long time, I feel that there is absolutely no obligation to the guy or girl to take the relationship to that level without marriage. Nobody should be made fun of for it either. If you’re experiencing that, take heart and stand firm. There is nothing wrong with what you are standing for. There are multiple verses in Scripture telling all of us (guys and girls) to honor their bodies through Christ. We all have our own opinions on the subject, but I know if you're a believer in Christ with me, girls, you should get the same feeling.
And let me clarify, if something has happened, you are a Christian girl, and you regret a decision, you can still be right with God. There are messages in scripture that tell us to not have sex before marriage (Hebrews 13:4, 1 Corinthians 6:13, Colossians 3:5), but God gives forgiveness if you ask for it from your heart. All is not lost. I'm not trying to tell everybody the way it should be, I'm just giving you something to think about. Speaking to those who have given up their virginity, I do not claim to know what you’ve been through, what you’ve experienced. I am not judging you; I am in no place to judge anyone, ever. I don’t know whether you regret the decision or not, but if you do regret it, it’s okay to ask for the forgiveness already given to you through Christ. God doesn’t love you less, I don’t love you less, not one person should love you less.
So, if you're the patient in this situation, good for you. You've followed Christ in your heart, you’ve followed your faith, and you’re sticking to your morals. If you're the doctors making fun of that patient, leave him/her alone, and ask yourself why you're making fun of that person. Do you regret a decision? Do you not feel right about a decision? Why are you putting that person down? And, if you are that resident being made fun of, let me tell you, there is nothing to be ashamed of. I must speak my mind. People may not understand faith, or may not understand your reasoning, but don't give up something so precious just because this world tells you to give in.
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"Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. Do you not know that your bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your bodies."
-1 Corinthians 6:18-20
“It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong or take advantage of a brother or sister. The Lord will punish all those who commit such sins, as we told you and warned you before. For God did not call us to be impure, but to live a holy life. Therefore, anyone who rejects this instruction does not reject a human being but God, the very God who gives you his Holy Spirit.”
-1 Thessalonians 4:3-8